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Being Alone: 7 Benefits That Will Make It Worthwhile

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The work day isn’t even half done and you’re already looking something to do after you clock out.

You’ve barely been home long enough to change your clothes before you’re on the phone with a friend trying to figure out what you guys are going to do for the evening.

The two of you run through a couple of ideas but before you know it you both are on the couch with a committed plan to clear out the DVR, or at least make a good dent.

You guys spend the rest of the night watching recorded and live shows, half of which barely interest you. And that’s in between checking your feeds on social media and skimming your email.

You’ve spent half a work day watching pointless television and you’re not even slightly captivated by what you saw.

It was really just something to pass the time, something to do. I mean, isn’t it all?

Burning Hours

What are you really doing?

Let’s face it, you don’t really care about these shows. Sure some of them are funny and entertaining.

But when you find yourself just watching another show simply because it came on after another you know you’re wasting time.

You and your friend had nothing better to do so you landed on the couch.

It was this or aimlessly shopping for nothing in particular. And since this was free and required less travel time it was the easy choice.

Ordinarily you wouldn’t even do this but you and your friend needed something to do.

This is better than sitting by yourself right?

That’s why you keep doing pointless things with your company. Doing nothing with a pal is better than doing nothing all by your lonesome.

But that’s where you’re wrong.

Spending time alone, especially when it turns out to be hours, seems boring and uneventful but it’s really not bad at all.

Being Alone

Being social is good for you but that doesn’t mean you constantly have to have others around you.

A filled social calendar doesn’t exactly equal a satisfying life. You can go to all the parties in the world and be smothered by others and still be lost in life.

There are a number of benefits and worthwhile reasons to make sure you get some alone time.

In a lot of cases it may even be necessary for your growth and mental stability.

Spending a good amount of time alone regularly will not turn you into a weird loner. You’ll actually learn more than anyone else could ever teach you.

Breaking the cycle of occupying your time with pointless tasks will open up a whole new opportunity to make incredible discoveries and changes.

For the first time you’ll have the chance to be more connected to everything you ever wanted, to reach your potential.

1. Understand yourself

When you’re alone you can ask yourself really tough and meaningful questions without having to worry about being judged.

You have the opportunity to thoroughly think about your life and what you want to do with it.

You can examine what you really want versus what’s presently going on.

2. You can do what you like

This is one of my faves.

Being alone means that you don’t have to compromise on how your time will be spent. You can do what you want to do without running it by anyone.

You’re in complete control.

It’s like having the world as your oyster.

3. Explore your interests

After you’ve dug deeper into who you are you may discover that you have budding interests that have previously gone unnoticed.

Take the time you have alone to explore your interests further and learn even more about yourself and what the world has to offer.

There’s no point in staying in a narrow field of view.

4. Enlighten yourself

Being alone gives you more time to read and learn more things in general.  Can you imagine having more to talk about than what is on TV?

Broaden your horizons and culture yourself by doing more reading in your spare time.

You’ll become a more interesting and intellectually stimulating person.

5. Exercise

Exercising seems like the perfect thing to do with a buddy. But to be honest with you I’m more consistent with my workouts when I do them alone.

You can design your own workout plan when you’re alone. No more negotiating what machine to go on next and how much time to spend.

You can do what you need to and for as long as you like. You can even try new things at your own pace.

6. Sharpen your skills

Isn’t it great to be really good at something? I mean so good that people always come to you for advice on it. It would be if you were. And here’s your chance.

Figure out what you’re good at and enjoy. Spend your alone time practicing and educating yourself on it so you can be the best around.

Your confidence will shoot through the roof.

7. Make your dreams come true

It’s hard to figure out what you want to do next when you always have company. Besides, you may want to keep some of your goals to yourself in the beginning.

When you’re spending time alone you can sort through your wants and determine your next goals.

This even gives you the opportunity to draft out a plan to achieve them. Just another thing that outside distractions would keep you from doing.

It’s Really Worth It

Being alone isn’t half as bad as it seems. It really gets a bad rap. Spending time alone has a number of benefits, many of which help you to grow as an individual.

When you continue to burn up your time with less meaningful activities you get stuck in a pattern that prevents you from reaching your potential.

It even keeps you from truly enjoying your life.

Spending time alone gives you the opportunity and power to do and live however you like.


Tell me…

Are you spending enough time alone?


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  • Hey Lea,

    This has been exactly my mentality for the past 10 years consistently. I felt before that I wasn’t accomplishing anything, and when I get the idea of trying something, no one never wanted to go out and do it with me.

    It seems like everyone only wanted to follow the monotonous routine of going out to party, work, pay bills, find “The One”, and live happily ever .

    I thought that was boring and wanted to do more. So I set out to do the hobbies I’ve always wanted to do and I feel more fulfilled for doing it.

    I did have some people question me about being a “loner”, but to me I just went ahead and kept moving forward.

    The only thing they had over me was that they were connecting with new people each time they go out, which is great. But at the same time I was honing my skills and becoming more self educated than anything.

    Thanks for sharing Lea! Have a great day!

    • Lea

      Hey Sherman,

      Funny you mentioned that. I was just having a convo with someone about not being on the same page with some things as your friends. In the end sometimes you just have to go at it alone.

      Glad to hear you didn’t let that stop you, and went and did it. We don’t always have the same desires and ideals and that’s cool.

      It’s crazy how people see keep to yourself as a bad thing. It’s really not. Sometimes you need that time alone to actually get things done. Some roads have to be walked alone.

      Nice to hear from you again! And thanks for sharing your experience.


  • I too love being alone. When I became unexpectedly alone a few years ago I was initially panic-stricken, but a very wise single friend told me “Focus on the Freedom”, and now I can’t imagine it being any other way. Perhaps I’ve got bit selfish 🙂

    I saw a wonderful thingy on Facebook the other day – it said “I’m not anti-social, I’m selectively sociable”.

    Would love a dog, like Adrienne has, but there’d be no-one to look after him when I do go out and about – which is quite a lot! One day perhaps….


    • Lea

      That’s really good advise that your friend gave you. Spending time alone is very freeing, among other things. Like I mentioned in the post, you are in complete control of how you spend your time, the judge and jury.

      I have a dog. They’re great to come home to but when I do go on vacation I do become concerned with his care. Enjoy your complete freedom Joy, sounds like you spend a good amount of time out and alone.


  • Oh my goodness Lea, I LOVE being alone. A social butterfly like myself admits loving being alone. I know, kind of weird right!

    I guess since I’m not married nor have I been in a relationship for years now I’m just used to being alone. Of course over the course of the years I’ve had best friends but as time went by they ended up moving away so I didn’t have any of them to call up and spend time with.

    I’m the kind of person who enjoys my own company though, I’m rarely bored and I can always find something to entertain myself. I think more people should learn to love themselves because in the end all we’ll ever have is ourselves.

    I love spending time with others but I also enjoy coming home to my dog. It’s just she and I with my Mom living next door but as you shared here, there are always things you can do if you want.

    Love this message, thank you my dear and hope you have a wonderful day.


    • Lea

      I love it too! I mean I like hanging out with others also but I need my me time.

      I can relate, I’m rarely bored also. I always have something to do. You said it! We should all be comfortable with who we are and be able to enjoy the time spent by our lonesome.

      Thanks so much. I think it’s something we all need to be reminded of.


  • Hi Lea,

    I love my “alone time.” It is when I can get really creative if I want to or simply just be! There is a difference between being lonely and being alone. When we are alone, we get the chance to be with our “self”… I love it!

    I would gladly choose being alone than hanging out with friends going aimless shopping or watching TV. It’s a time waster for me. I do like to be productive and can do my best when going at it by myself.

    I guess one needs to be comfortable in their own skin to appreciate the alone time.


    • Lea

      Hi Donna,

      There sure is a difference, but many people don’t realize it. They treat it as the same. I love my alone time as well! I feel like it’s a great time to really take stock in life.

      I agree. I’d rather be more productive with my time, alone. But sometimes its hard for my friends to understand.

      You’re right. I guess you do have to be comfortable.


  • Mark Newsome

    Thanks for the enlightenment Lea!LOL!

    I never even considered the possibility!But now that
    you’ve enlighten me and made such an extremely solid case!

    I have to say i can certainly see & readily appreciate much
    of what you’ve shared!

    Especially considerations #’s 4,5 & 6.

    There really are a lot more extremely viable options to be considered,
    once we’re alone with our thoughts!

    It’s truly amazing what you can discover, when you’re truly open
    to the possibilities!LOL! Thanks!

    • Lea

      So glad you appreciated it Mark lol!

      Yeah, you can learn when you give yourself the opportunity. It usually sounds like a good idea to buddy up with those things of things but your friends’ style may differ from yours. Causing friction.

      Thanks for the comment. Always great hearing from you!