When anxiety strikes it can take over. It can easily prevent you from being able to focus on anything else.
If you're anxious about a future event or even something that is happening currently but elsewhere, you'll find that you cannot do anything else.
You may set yourself up to do something, like pay bills on the computer, but find yourself unable to concentrate on completing the task. You could end up staring aimlessly at the screen. Or, end up Googling things surrounding the anxiety causing issue.
On the other hand, you could be able to go on about simple tasks, like cleaning up, but not doing it effectively.
Let's say, you try to vacuum the living room to busy yourself. You do that fairly well but you're not completely present, so you empty the bag into a potted plant. Not the trash.
So while you did clean the floor, you now have to clean the base of the plant, which you didn't have to do before.
Because your mind was so preoccupied, instead of effectively completing a chore, you made a mess of something else.
And this is just the lower end of spectrum. Anxiety can use such a mental takeover that it affects you emotionally and physically. You can turn into an emotional wreck or be physically drained. I mean to the point where not even the simplest task seems impossible.
In order to be able to do something, you have to relieve some that anxiety. To prevent anxiety from spilling over into all other aspects of your life and health, follow these steps.
Simple Steps to Put You Back in Control
1. Write it out
You can dedicate a notebook or just a single piece of paper to this, maybe two if you're a worry wart. Take a moment to jot down the things that feed your anxiety. You can do this now or as the feeling strikes.
Putting it down on paper, or a word document, gets it out of your head. You can calm down and move forward on your tasks with focus. This doesn't suppress your feelings, because you do need to let them out, but it allows you to work on getting over them. You can't focus on only this forever, you have to do other things.
2. Stop worrying now
If you're working on a report at work and a thought that causes you to worry pops into your head dismiss it. Add it to the list we just spoke about and get back to work. If you entertain it at the moment your report topic will change from operation progress to your anxious feelings.
Unless it is immediately important you don't have to deal with it at the moment. So it doesn't have to drain you or take over your day, or report.
3. Address your worries
When you have a moment, pull out your list from step one and question everything you've written down. Is it legitimate? Or are you just overreacting. Taking it to the extreme can cause undue stress for no reason, so stomp it out.
You can also do this in the moment if you're anxious about something in your current environment.
For instance, when you think people in the waiting room will be looking at you when you enter. They might glance up when the door opens, but they won't stare. No offense but I'm sure they find the tabloid their reading or the episode of Dr. Phil on the TV more entertaining.
4. Resolve your anxiety
For your worries that cannot be quickly dismissed, try to solve them. Look at the issue and brainstorm for viable solutions. Once you find a good match, put it into place.
For example, If you're worried about your son being able to get home after school because you're working late, have him call or text you when he gets in. Then your extra time at work isn't spent panicking.
5. Let the rest go
You are going to have some issues that you cannot resolve or even deal with at the moment. Those are the things that you'll just have to release. Sometimes I get worked up when I think about how I'm going to handle things that are far out.
Like for me, taking care of my elderly parents and children at the same time. Wondering if there will be a hard moment when they both need me at the same time and how I'll perform. But I can't spend my youth worrying about my old age. I hope that my parents can remain self-sufficient in their old age. But if they can't, it'll be worked out then.
If you have no control over it or it’s beyond your immediate future, say ta-ta and reconnect with the present.
Make sure you can continue to perform your day-to-day activities and enjoy life. If just thinking about certain things drains you physically and mentally, put these steps into motion.
Anxiety can take over your life but it doesn't have to. Certain issues cannot be avoided but your stress level is influenced by how you handle it. Get it under control so you can focus on the good things in life.
How about you…
How do you get over your anxiety?