Yes, there are ways to handle the most difficult person without pulling your hair out.
Remember the last time they drove you mad?
You were just trying to get an answer to a simple question but they kept making the process so complicated. They poked holes in every solution you presented, countering everything you said with determined negativity.
Sometimes you even have to brace yourself before coming in contact with them.
Dealing with difficult people like this is mentally and physically draining.
Not to mention incredibly counterproductive. You know you can’t get anything done with people like this standing in your way.
And I don’t need to tell you the impact it has on your stress levels, sheesh.
The biggest problem isn’t so much so that they exist. It’s that they’re everywhere.
Typically when you don’t like something you can just avoid it. But that’s kind of hard to do when that something is a difficult person you have to work with, or worse a family member you deal with on a regular basis. Then it’s pretty hard to get away from them.
Trying to flat out avoid a difficult person in those situations makes you seem like the uncooperative person. You’re the rude one, and then you have to deal with the backlash of it all.
Besides, you can’t avoid work. That just defeats the whole purpose of having a job.
To effectively solve a problem you have to know where it stems from. The reason it all came aboutfamily member. Then its pretty .
The funny thing about difficult people is that the reason they are so overly complicated has nothing to do with you. It’s none of your business. And honestly it’s probably deeper than you need to go with them.
So how do you interact with these people and still keep a full head of hair?
Everyone is different… even the crazies
Figure out what kind of relationship you have with these difficult people. That’s the first step to handling them appropriately.
You already know you cannot completely shut them out. Let’s face it if you could’ve made them disappear from your life forever you wouldn’t have done that already.
What you want to do is figure out a way to converse with them without raising your blood pressure.
Once you’ve determined the depth of your relationship you can then select the best approach.
Keeping it together
You can’t change someone else so don’t even bother. You’ll have to adapt to them for your interaction. But don’t worry they are not changing you. You’re just changing the situation to have a better outcome.
You have to keep your cool because it’s the only way you’re going to be able to stay on course. And if you want to get your tasks done, achieve your goals you can’t let a Negative Nancy throw you off your game.
These 5 invincible ways are the best methods to stay calm when dealing with difficult people so you can get back to business:
1. They’re not challenging
That’s what you have to think. You can’t look at them as a challenge.
When you go into the interaction with this type of view it tarnishes your ability keep aggravation at bay.
When you think something is going to be hard you just wait for that moment and then lose control. You’re not focused on a solution. You’re just waiting for the fireworks.
Make sure that your focus is on the topic of discussion.
2. Know your limits
You can’t be around these types of people all the time and function effectively. I mean you would have to tune everyone out and at that rate you might as well be by yourself.
You don’t need to isolate yourself completely, just know your limits. Some people can get to be too much after a while so sometimes the best thing to do is wrap it up early.
3. Be tactful
Politely keep the conversation on course. The clearer you are about your request or what has to be done the more smoothly things will go.
If you’re too harsh that will turn into a whole separate issue.
You can get in and out without ruffling any feathers by being clear and concise.
If the person trying to take you off topic with rants and other complaints, kindly bring it back then retreat as soon as things are buttoned up, because they will try to bait you again.
4. Don’t be conceited
It’s not about you. Don’t take it personal. I know it may seem that way but it’s not.
You’re not the only one dealing with it. This is just how they act.
Like I said before, their issues and reasoning behind their behavior has nothing to do with you. Nor is it your responsibility to fix it.
Keeping a cool head means not allowing them to push your buttons. Reminding yourself that it’s not a about you helps keep your defenses down.
5. Laugh it off
This one is my favorite, but may not be suitable for all personalities.
Getting them to chuckle, while enjoying a laugh yourself, is a fun way to stay on course. And truth be told it kind of throws them off their negative track.
Getting them to laugh when they want to complain can be quite the derailment. You might even change their mood.
Make sure to make a joke of the situation and not the individual as not to hurt any feelings.
Difficult people are unavoidable and they seem to pop up everywhere you can imagine.
The fact of the matter is you have to deal with these people at some point whether you like it or not. And if you don’t want to ruin your entire day behind it you have to have some techniques to keep you on course.
While you may have thought before that there was no simple way to handle them, there are actually a few. Use these tips to keep your cool when you have to come in contact with a difficult person.
Once you become a pro at applying these tips you won’t even notice how challenging these people are anymore. You’ll be on to the next thing without a care in the world.
What about you…
How often do you have to deal with difficult people? How angry do they get you sometimes?