7 Ways to Pound Your Fears into Motivational Pixie Dust

face your fears

It’s terrifying isn’t it?

But it’s a different kind of fear. It’s not the super intense, in your face kind of fear you have when you’re afraid of heights, or dogs and five of them are running towards you.

No, this is a subtle fear.

Silent, yet deadly.

From time to time you’ll experience the strong emotion but it won’t last too long, but it’s still powerful enough to stop you.

It’s like electric shock therapy, just a zap is more than enough to stop you in your tracks.

You know you want to move forward. I mean you’ve wasted enough time already, but you keep getting zapped.

It’s gotten so bad, the fear is so strong, that you don’t even try anymore.

Just the thought of it scares you and knowing that the fear will get stronger if you continue makes you rethink your sanity.

So what do you do now, risk full blown electrocution or just give up on your dreams?

You're Wearing a Mental Shock Collar

How else would you describe the torment you’re putting yourself through…?

You know you’ve seen it before, the dog the just sits in the middle of the yard in this odd yet calm manner.

He sees something he wants, but just sits there staring at it, you know he wants to get up and take off running but he doesn’t move an inch.

He gets all worked up, whimpers and lays down.

That’s you, all day.

You want to go after your goals but you know, just like that dog, that there is an invisible force between you and it that will hit you first.

For the dog it’s a shock from his collar if he tries to walk outside of the yard, his preset boundary. But for you it’s fear.

You’re letting fear stand in your way.

What you both have in common is you’re scared stiff.

You can’t just stand there like a mannequin for the rest of your life. I mean, of course you can but what kind of life would that be?

Fear is just something you can’t get around. There’s no way to avoid it, it’s just always going to be there. You’re just going to have to face it.

The best way to do that is to go through it.

Head straight for the center and shatter it to pieces. It’s the only way to get to the other side.

Doing this can be scarier but if you do it the right way you can build yourself up along the way.

1. Switch it up

You’re thinking about this all wrong.

Completely wrong.

Growing up you were taught that if you feared something that you should stay as far away from it as possible.

That when you see it coming, you need to get up and take off in the opposite direction, immediately. But that’s wrong.

If your fear is real, it’s a sign… and not one telling you to run for the hills.

It’s telling you that you’re about to break out of your comfort zone. Either you’re going into something unfamiliar or something amazing is about to happen.

Either way it’s the growth and the change you need.

And probably what you’ve been dying for all along.

So change the way you think about fear so something different can happen, for once.

2. Take it back to Math class

They may not taunt you every day but you have more than one fear, you know that.

Think of, better yet, make a list of all the things that scare the crap out of you.

Make sure you include all the little fears that stop you from taking action just when you’re about to.

Once you’ve done that look them over. What do they have in common?

Are most of them connected to one thing that you’re trying to do?

Chances are there is a pattern in your fears. It could be a fear of change, embarrassment, success, whatever, but that’s the lowest common denominator, the core of it.

This is what you need to address and turn the tables on it. Otherwise your mind will just keep coming up with excuses by way of new crippling fears.

3. Get your game face on

It’s time to put your big kid pants on.

You know the best way to get over fear is right? To look it straight in the face and call its bluff.

But in order to really pull this off without peeing your pants, and building further on that fear is to face it strategically.

Don’t just randomly pick a fear and run towards it screaming like some kind of crazed Trojan warrior with a spear. You’ve got to do it right.

Take the list of fears you made before and re-organized the list from least scary to most terrifying.

Obviously you’re going to want to start with the least scary fear and confront it.

As you continue down your scream worthy to-do list, every defeated fear will give you the guts to attack the next one.

Keep going until your list doesn’t exist anymore.

When it’s all said and done, not only will you be fearless but you’ll have the confidence to take on anything.

4. Just chill

Having strong fear about something can make you so stressed and anxious that your bowels suddenly start to move.

Sorry I had to take it there, but you know what I’m talking about.

It’s like when you were a teenager and you had your first job interview. You didn’t know what to expect, you just wanted to do well and get a job offer.

Then when the day came, as you got ready to head out the door, the more you thought about it the more anxious you got. Then suddenly the John was calling your name.

Now that lovely walk down memory lane was to remind you that your feelings are going to get out of control, and even impact different parts of you, but instead of letting it take over you should chill out.

Just relax.

Take deep breaths and focus on what you’re trying to accomplish.

5. Pull the brakes

When it comes down to it, you make your own fuel. The direction you end up going in comes from you.

So when you’re about to take action and fear creeps in and stops you. It’s not actually the fear that’s hitting the breaks, it’s you.

You’re in control of it all.

There have been times when challenges came up when you were trying to do something else and you continued on anyway. You didn’t let that stop you.

You can apply that same principle here.

Look at it this way, fear is just a feeling, it’s just happens to be associated with bad things. But the same way a bad feeling can come up and change things, you can stir up good feelings to do the exact opposite.

6. Think twice

Your initial instincts about fear are wrong. So don’t act on them.

Fear will make you want to drop the mic and disappear into the darkness, but don’t let it.

You’re going to start to sweat and feel uber-uncomfortable, but I promise it will pass.

Continue doing what you planned and these sensations will go away. Your shirt will dry and you might even immediately feel exhilarated.

As long as you can push through the initial weird feelings you will feel amazing when it’s all said and done.

You might even wonder why you waited so long, and what you were afraid of in the first place.

Trust me and your future self, it’s not that bad.

7. Swear by it

I mean, don’t you think it’s about time.

Up to this point you’ve basically let this fear run your life. It’s dictated what you can and can’t do.

Aren’t you tired of it running your life? Aren’t you tired of not being in control?

There are things that you’ve been dying to do but won’t touch with a ten-foot pole because of fear. And that really needs to stop.

Think about all that you’re missing out on life, all because you’re a scaredy cat.

In order for this to work you have to commit to the idea, completely.

Raise you right hand and say, “I solemnly swear not to let fear control my life anymore and limit my happiness. I will use one or all of these ways whenever fear resurfaces and I will keep moving forward.”

Break the Boundaries You've Imposed

Fear is an emotion but it doesn’t have to be a bad one.

You’ve been responding to it that way your whole life and it’s done nothing but hold you back.

Life isn’t about staying in the same place forever, it’s about progress and growth. But the only way you can reach new heights is to let go of what is holding you back.

It’s time to break the boundaries and travel into a new frontier.

Change your attitude about fear and you’ll finally be able to use it to your advantage.

Overcoming this obstacle and using it as motivation will help you to get moving in life, shattering any stagnation.

Honestly, nothing will be more helpful than that.

 

Tell me…

What do you do when fear creeps up?

 

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  • Hey Lea,

    Fear is one of those things that can completely take over. And as you said, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Sometimes fear has a useful role to play (when it alerts you to impending danger).

    I appreciate the Math class example. I’ve looked over at things I was nervous about in the past and remembered getting through them just fine. It’s a great exercise when it comes to observing yourself and your past.

    Great topic Lea 🙂

    • Lea

      Hey Dana,
      Great point. We’re just used to interpreting it the wrong way. Just have to recondition the mind that it isn’t completely bad.
      Glad you got it. I’ve experienced that as well. Sometimes you just need that reminder.

  • Hi Lea,

    I love this article! The analogy of the dog sitting there with his shock collar on is wonderful.

    We all have fear to one degree or another, but when it stops us and we sit there like a dog and whimper, it is time to do something about it. I find that when I get into that kind of state is is so not the time to make a decision. Rather, time to do some self talk or reach out to someone.

    Fear can be paralyzing. Who wants to stay in one place? I sure can’t.

    -Donna

    • Lea

      Hi Donna,
      Lol, thanks, it came to me and I just went with it.
      Good strategy, because at the end of the day you have to get to the bottom of what is holding you back.
      No one should!

  • Hey Lea,

    I have always been a person with fear. But as you have mentioned, thinking twice, pull the brakes, I really do.
    We all have something to fear untill we face that. Fear isn’t the solution.
    Every time I get afraid of something, I stick to the plan and break the silence.
    ~Ravi

    • Lea

      Hey Ravi,
      Awesome! Continuing on anyway is really the only way to get over it. You can’t let things like that run your life. You’re the one in control and you have to act like it.

  • Hi Lea.
    How are you?
    What a surprise it was
    To see you drop by
    At my blog
    Very kind of you.
    Thanks a lot
    Appreciate it.
    Motivational Pixie Dust
    Now that is really
    Very very creative
    How did you dream up
    Such a headline?
    Love the concept of
    A mental shock collar
    Great post.
    Thanks for sharing.
    Best wishes and regards.
    Ved

    • Lea

      Hi Ved,
      It’s only right to return the favor as you visited mine 🙂
      Thanks, guess I had fairy dust on the brain. Thanks for visiting again.

      • Wow Lea
        That is so kind of you
        I wish all bloggers
        Were like you
        Then I would get so
        Many many comments on my blog
        You are so good Lea
        Thanks a lot.
        Regards

  • Love this post Lea, especially the phrase you use – mental shock collar. Brilliant! I tend to just push through fear, but we all have areas that are a little tougher to deal with than others and I’m no different. I’ve identified one particular pesky area to focus on this year and my theme reflects my intention – OWN IT! Best wishes for the New Year. 🙂

    • Lea

      Awesome Marquita, so glad you enjoyed the post! Best of luck and I hope you keep that razor sharp focus. Happy New Year!! 🙂