For some people being successful seems to be the way they live their lives. Pretty much everything works out for them in a great way.
It reminds me of a time when someone was describing this type of person to me. She was actually telling me about a time when yet another thing seemed to work out for this person, while nothing was going right for her.
When she asked me if I knew a person like that, someone who everything’s coming up roses for, I got kind of stuck on that.
Not because I was actually thinking of a person but because her tone and demeanor had change when she said it. She sounded a bit disgusted and frustrated.
She continued to tell me how she and this person had much in common but her friend was clearly doing something differently since everything was rosy in her world.
By the end of the story the woman I was talking to was annoyed and frustrated with the very thought of her friend. She knew there was a disconnect but she couldn’t figure out what.
I think she chalked it up to luck because she couldn’t come up with a better line of reasoning.
The weird thing about blaming luck is that you’re basically accepting that you cannot make it happen for yourself. Unless luck is on your side you’re screwed. But that’s not how life works.
I’m sure the woman described didn’t have luck on her side all the time. She was successful at things because of what she did.
But when you can’t figure it out from the outside it’s easier to blame the one thing you can’t control. But doing that is never going to make you anything like them. It’s not going to make you anymore successful.
What’s luck got to do with it?
If you’ve learned anything from watching others evolve it should be that it has nothing to do with luck.
Look at your favorite celebrity, the one who’s background you know something about. They weren’t lucky enough to nail their first gig. It’s not like they walked into Hollywood and immediately got accepted with open arms.
A lot of celebrities had crappy first jobs and struggle for quite some time before seeing their names in lights.
They didn’t hold crappy jobs to build character, nor to develop one for a future role. They did it until they had to. Until they honed the right habits that breed success.
The thing is we all have habits but they’re not all good. They don’t benefit us when it comes to getting what we really want.
But when habits are so hard to break and they’ve become a part of you they become hard to shake. And quite honestly it may be the last place you look.
Right under your nose
When things are not working out for you but working perfectly for someone else, you may begin to ask yourself what’s wrong.
Sure you’ll try out a few things but they won’t make much of a difference. Because you don’t even know what you really need to change.
You don’t know what they’re doing that you’re not. It’s not as obvious as you think, which is why you blamed luck in the first place.
But it’s still right there in front of you, hiding in plain sight.
You don’t even realize you’re doing it but you still are.
When you’re trying to mirror someone else’s success you have to dig deeper. What truly makes them successful will not be lying smack-dab on top for you to see.
These little obscure, yet powerful things helped them, so they can help you even if your goal isn’t exactly the same as theirs.
You have to look into your habits because that very thing you do without thinking is what is tripping you up. You have to figure out what their good habits are a duplicate them.
Lucky for you (see this is when luck actually works) I’ve uncovered a number of them for you.
1. They’re realistic
Chances are your goals are not farfetched. But if you think you can open a restaurant and instantly become world renowned chef then your dream may seem impossible.
A lot is possible when you’re realistic about your time frames and what can be done.
It’s very common for people to overestimate what can be done in a certain period of time.
When you want something badly you want it to happen instantly but you have to remember good things take time.
2. They keep their eyes forward
When you think about success what comes to mind shortly after? Is it all the ways you fell short before? Forget about that stuff.
Stop focusing on how you failed in the past because all that’s going to do is make you fearful of the future. You’re not going to move forward in fear of falling into the same trap. But by focusing on the past you already have.
Challenges are going to come up but that doesn’t mean they’re going to knock you out of the game.
If you know that something is going to become a problem don’t let is halt your progress. Prep for a solution and keep going.
3. They’re appreciative
In the moment you may not understand why things aren’t working out exactly as planned but later on it can make perfect sense. Once you realize how everything worked out nicely allow yourself to feel gratitude.
And even when it’s too early to understand, be grateful that it’s still working out in some way.
Being appreciative makes you happy, and being content keeps you motivated for success.
4. They’re standards are up there
Everyone’s idea of success is different but they all have different levels. If you’re constantly shooting for the lower levels it’s no wonder you’re not successful the way you’d like.
Becoming comfortable with poor results doesn’t make you successful or happier with them.
You’re completely capable of achieving more and living a great life. Just give it a shot.
5. They don’t allow themselves to be victimized
It’s common to blame others for the bad things that have happened to you, saying that it’s completely out of your control. You’re the helpless victim, but you’re not.
And let’s face it that’s not going to get you anywhere.
While there may be some situations where you are a victim of circumstance you still have the ability to work your way out of it.
Taking responsibility for what’s going on in your life is the only way you can take control back. It’s powerful in more ways than one, and with it you can beat the odds.
6. They don’t compare
Why? Because there’s no comparison.
No matter how much you think you may have in common with another person there are still differences. They may not be obvious to you but there still is.
You think that your life should mirror that of someone else near your age, it doesn’t have to. Everyone is unique in a multitude of ways so it’s like comparing apples to oranges.
If you want to make a comparison to see if you’re on the right track compare your current to your past. Progress will let you know that you’re on the right path.
7. They value their mistakes
You may think that a setback is a sign to give up but it’s not. Regardless of what it is, it usually lets you know that there’s another way.
Sure they’re tough but often they are necessary for you to achieve your goals.
Mistakes and failures help you to pave the road to success. And successful people know this.
They didn’t let it stop them. Instead they used that new insight to their advantage. And look at them now.
8. They live in a grudge free zone
Holding a grudge keeps you in the past. It prevents you from making clear and smart decisions for yourself.
When you’re so focused on punishing another person, you live little room to work in other things.
While you may be upset with someone for a wrongdoing don’t let it prevent you from moving forward.
If you have to engage this person as part of your process for success consider the pros and cons before you completely dismiss it has part of your grudge.
Holding grudges has often been described as taking poison and expecting your enemy to suffer. Chances are you’re hurting yourself more than them.
No matter how much you may have convinced yourself in the past, another person’s continued success has nothing to do with luck. It may become easier for them but that’s because they’ve figure out the habits they need to keep to going.
If you want to be anything like them, and I know you do, who wouldn’t. You need to mimic the habits of successful people.
Waiting for luck to be on your side will keep you on the sidelines of life forever. Claim the success that is rightfully yours by changing your habits for the better.
Do you know someone who things just seem to always work out for?
Are you guilty of not doing these things?