You’ve been through this a million times. You should have a million accomplished desires on your track record.
But surprisingly you don’t.
The process starts and ends the same, every single time. You get all excited when you think about something you want. Just the thought of having it makes you want to jump up and down on the couch for joy.
You can’t peel that smile off of your face. It’s exactly what you want, exactly what you need. And you deserve it!
The adrenaline is enough to keep you pumped all day and heighten your mood. Everything seems so much better.
Now here comes the real stuff. How are you going to get it?
You start to think about the things you have to do. The list gets longer, the tasks seem complicated. It’s beyond the norm for you. Your euphoric state begins to fade a bit.
But what the heck, you’re going to give it a shot because you can’t let such a good feeling go so quickly.
So you take the preliminary steps, after all they are the easiest. You’re still kind of pumped. As pumped as anyone could be for doing legwork, right.
You’re trucking along, then things start to get a bit harder, something else gets in the way. Then just like that your goal becomes a brief thought from long ago.
What just happened?
One minute your goal and the tasks leading up to it were a part of your agenda, now it’s just it’s just a souvenir of days gone by.
It’s kind of confusing when you think about how you went from 0 to 60 then back down to zero again. But when you think about it further it’s actually quite simple.
You worked on it for a little while, then you stopped, and probably just as quickly as you started.
Are you not into it anymore?
Do you even still get that cheerful feeling when you think about it?
You don’t feel as strongly because it just doesn’t work for you anymore. Your feelings have numbed because you’re no longer thinking about the end result but the process to get there.
It’s the work that you have to put in that has soured your mood. When people think about their goals they focus on conceiving the thought then achieving it. Not the stuff in between. So when you don’t get that instant gratification things feel like they’re falling apart.
But that doesn’t mean they are. You have to keep going it you’re ever going to make it to the finish line.
But how are you ever going to make it to achievement if you can’t even get over the process in the middle?
You have to reconnect with your goal. Don’t let your feelings around it sour because the process is a bit more than you’re used to.
It comes with the territory. There isn’t a goal out there you can achieve without some kind of work. So if you plan on giving up every time the road seems a little long you can count on not having a single thing to be proud of.
Really think about it. How else are you going to get them done if you don’t do the work?
I know you’d rather lie on the couch in front of the TV but this is your life. No one else is going to do it for you or make your life the way you want it to be. So get started, the sooner the better.
That’s basically it. Why? Figure out why you want this goal, why the thought of having it makes you happy.
In doing this not only will you determine what about it motivates you but you can also figure out if its valid and worth the effort. Sometimes you want things for the wrong reasons, they don’t benefit you. You want it just because.
This can help you weed out the important stuff compare to the fluff so you can stop wasting your time on the unnecessary and unfulfilling.
Once you know it’s worth the effort it will become easier to focus on the work. When you don’t know why you’re doing something or there isn’t a real reason behind it you won’t even notice when it falls off your radar.
You have to reinforce its importance and connect with that motivation.
This is the heart of the problem. In case you have not recognized it, this is the reason why you can’t get the goal. This is so easy not to do.
Unfortunately goals are not like wishes to a Genie, you can’t just ask for it and it instantly happens. You have to follow through with it.
How do you follow through when things get harder? Of course you’re going to face some challenges and areas of uncertainty, what good goal doesn’t have this thrown into the mix.
This is where scare tactics some in. Think about what would happen or how your life would be if you didn’t do it. Typically, that is motivation enough for me, especially with the big stuff.
I mean, just being stagnant forever scares me.
So whenever you think about giving it up or putting it off think about how your life would be if you never achieved your goals. That ought to put your butt in gear.
I used to be the worst at this. In the past I would work super long days so when I was finally done, I was too tired to do anything else. Most of the time I wasn’t actually tired, I just didn’t want to do anything else, the thought of another thing made me tired.
What I would do was tell myself that I’d work on my goals on my extended weekends (I worked longer days to get more off at the end of the week). You can guess what happened.
At that point I was actually tired and had a crazy long list of other things that I also put off. I was trying to fit too many things into a few days. It just didn’t work and my goals, and I, suffered.
Working a little on your goals everyday makes the process easier and feels less tedious.
On the weekends I felt like I had million things to do. And some of the tasks were just too much to do all in one day or even two, like it would wipe you out.
When I started working normal shifts again and was able to commit to my goals daily and things finally started to process nicely.
Make your goals a part of your daily routine. Work on them every possible day. Sure you might miss a day but don’t use that as an excuse to throw in the towel. Pick right back up again and continue your streak.
There’s nothing to it
Coming up with goals are easy, make them a reality is another story. It’s hard but not too hard for you. Now that you know how to keep you head in the game the process will become simpler.
A goal is meant to be achieved. Outside of action it is just a wish. This surefire method will transform your wishes into goals, then into your reality. Isn’t that what you’re really after?
Make sure to connect with your goal so you know why you need to do it, and keep it on your mind and on your agenda so that it can become part of your daily life.
What’s your take…
Do you think focusing on how your life would be without your goal is motivation enough to work on it daily? Does that thought scare you also?