Are you getting anywhere with your goals? You know why right?
It’s because all you do is talk about the life you want to live. You haven’t taken any action to make it happen.
This reminds me of my friend’s situation. He wanted to buy a house. That was his thing. That was the next major life change he was looking to make. To move out and start creating his home in is very own house.
The way he talked about it I thought he was dead serious in making it happen, and as quickly as possible. I mean he spoke like he knew what he was talking about.
He even made some sort of effort. He looked at a few houses, popping up at open houses when the signs were up.
I remember one time we driving to a restaurant to grab lunch, while going through a neighbor one house had a for sale sign out front. He made me back the car up so he could copy down the info.
And it didn’t stop there. At lunch he continued to talk about that house. So much so that I looked it up online so he could get more info and stop asking me questions about it that I didn’t know.
But after all that nothing else happened. He really liked the house, talking about how it had a good sized yard and the number of bedrooms he was interested in, but he never contacted the agent. He didn’t even take a virtual tour.
Not to mention that his credit, which he was once trying to wrangle, was getting out of hand.
He knew he needed good credit and low debt to qualify for a mortgage, we talked about that too. But somehow he couldn’t resist opening account after account. Within six months he opened ten different card accounts and was in $20k of credit card debt.
I couldn’t believe it and honestly he couldn’t either. Just six months prior it sounded like he was ready to buckle down and make this house thing happen. But now he was headed in a completely different direction.
He talked so much about getting the house but did nothing to move down that path. In fact he was hindering himself. Instead of growing his savings for a down payment, he was drowning in credit card debt.
Why You Need to Pay Attention
Inaction doesn’t get you anywhere. You have to do something. If you don’t you won’t get anywhere.
While he was doing a lot of things, opening different accounts and making purchases, none of this was benefiting his goal of getting a house.
Where purchasing a home was concerned, he was stagnant. The progress towards his goal was completely still.
The thing is, just talking about something doesn’t make it happen. Even if you have incredible expertise in it, it doesn’t do you any good if you’re not using it. If all you’re doing is talking and not using what you know, you’re not going to get anywhere.
You have to take action. If you don’t you’re going to be stuck in the same place forever. Or like my friend, moving in a completely different direction, that doesn’t help you either. You’ll be creating another problem that puts you farther away from your goals.
This is typically at pattern of behavior. Somehow you learned it, so there is hope to unlearning it.
Why You’re All Talk
I’m too busy
People always say this when they can’t get anything done. Sure you have a lot to do. But really how busy are you? What are you doing instead?
Are you actually doing something worthwhile or are you plopped in front of the TV?
Do you need 10 minutes of rest to relax, that actually turns into a 2 hour nap?
Poppycock, you’re busy doing nothing, really.
If you’re really busy, at the day’s end you should have a number of things that you completed that needed to be done. If you don’t, then you were probably just killing time.
Now this is something real. And something you might not even realize until you really think about it.
The thought of doing all these new things to achieve your goals can be scary but it’s all in your head. You’re making yourself scared.
Life keeps getting in the way
This is because you’re letting it. You’re allowing things to come between you and your destiny.
This was the issue for my friend. He constantly let other things take his focus. He’d do things like letting other people’s problems become his own. This impacted his frame of mind, making it difficult to do much else.
I really think the retail therapy was just a way of coping with those issues. But in turn they were making it really hard for his goal to be easily achieved.
The same way these circumstances have come together to make you stagnant, you have to recreate a situation that makes you unstoppable.
Sure you’re busy. Of course you’re scared, you’re about to embark on something completely different.
You’re about to make your dream come true, you should be scared! But you should be scared like excited and nervous, not like paralyzed with fear.
And yes, life will happen and throw you off a little but you can’t let it completely distract you.
Honestly, if you keep on like this how are you going to live your life goals?
They’re not just going to happen on their own. Think about it, you’ve been talking about them forever and what’s happened, squat.
Besides, if that was the case they would’ve happened already. This is the only way to achieve your goals and live the life you imagined.
What You Can Do
1. Understand that there is no perfect time
Oh, you’ve been sitting around waiting for the perfect time to get started. Hate to break it to you but you’ve been waiting in vain.
There isn’t this incredibly perfect time that is going to be so obvious to you that you’ll know instantly to begin. It just doesn’t work that way. Even if it did how would you be able to recognize it?
The fact of the matter is you need to work it out. Sure there might be some obstacles in your way at the moment. But you can still figure out a way to factor your goals in.
The perfect moment isn’t just going to happen. You have to make it happen. If something is in the way of you taking a step forward, get rid of it, resolve the problem and get to business.
Stop being a victim of circumstance. Don’t let the conditions of your life dictate it.
2. Make time
Now that you know that there is no perfect time you’ve probably realized that you have to make time.
But this is no different than what you’ve doing before. Before you started working you probably spent your days hanging out with friends and watching TV. But when you started to work you had to make some adjustments. The hours you spent on leisure activities are now your work hours.
Your days are filled doing something, anything, important or not. You’re going to have to move some things around and carve out time to work on your life goals.
When something is important you make it a priority. When it’s a priority to make time for it, your goals should be a priority. So make time to work on them.
Figure out how much time you need and dedicate a block of time to it. Make it part of your routine.
3. Start one step at a time
Beginning something completely new can be overwhelming. Instead of jumping in head first and scaring the crap out of yourself, start small.
Let’s say your goal is to be 30 lbs lighter and you want to add exercising to your regimen. The thought of working out for 2 hours a day, like your fave celeb does, may make you want to reconsider. I mean if you don’t workout at all 2 hours daily sounds frightening.
So instead of immediately trying to do a 120 minute workout routine, and possibly passing out midway, start out with 15- 30 minutes. As you start to get used to that, add some time to it, double it if you can.
When you start out slow and steady, working your way up, the whole process becomes easier. Before you now it you’ll be able to do 2 hours of cardio without batting an eye.
After all starting is the hardest step.
4. Don’t excuse yourself
When you’re starting a new routine it can be hard to stay on course. You’ll probably find yourself coming up with all types of excuses as to why you should put it off. But don’t fall into it.
In less than a minute you can convince yourself not to take action and to do something else instead. Before that happens, take a moment to consider what will happen if you don’t do anything.
There are going to be days when you don’t feel like it, but you have to motivate yourself. This is the only way your progress will be steady and continuous.
5. Figure out what is tripping you up
Identify what is making you want to give up.
Is something distracting you? Do you have the TV on, the music is playing too loudly? That’s probably why all you want to do is dance.
Are you too tired after work? Is it easier for you to do it in the morning when you have more energy?
Are your push notifications and text messages diverting your attention? Silence your phone or put on Do Not Disturb so you can focus.
Make it simple for you to bang out your tasks. If something is getting in the way of you working on your life goals remove it. Create the ideal environment to work on your dreams.
6. Remind yourself
Some people convince themselves that if they can’t remember something than it probably wasn’t important. That is a good way to comfort yourself when you’ve lost something, knowing you should’ve written it down. But that doesn’t make it any less important.
Add working on your goal to your to-do list. Schedule it into your calendar. Or just simply make an alert so you remember to start on it during the block of time you set aside.
Don’t let there be a way you can forget. Because if you do, I highly doubt you’ll be able to convince yourself that your life goals weren’t important.
7. Record your development
Pay attention to what you’ve done. As you go through the different steps of completing your goals reflect on your growth.
Look back on where you started and where you are now. Admire how things have changed and the benefits of it you’re already enjoying.
When you know you’re getting somewhere you likely to continue on to completion.
8. Concentrate on the goal
When you think about how hard it’s going to be to force yourself to exercise for 2 hours straight you’re not even going to want to put your sweat pants on. But if you put your attention on how healthy and fit you’re going to be things start to look brighter.
Always think about the picture you painted, how your life goals look completed. This is all the motivation you need to take any step towards it.
Above all, it is the reason you doing it in the first place.
Don’t let your inability to take action on your goals as a sign that they aren’t meant for you. If you can’t get it off your mind and you’re constantly talking about it you need to do something about it.
Remember to just keep focusing on your goal. When you hear yourself talking about it to a friend or thinking about it randomly, take that opportunity to focus on your next step to making it happen.
By taking advantage of the fact that it is always on your mind will allow you to finally do something about it. Instead of just talking and forgetting about it like you did before and being stagnant. Now you’ll be talking about it, doing something related to it and getting somewhere.
You’ll finally have the opportunity to talk about your progress with it!
What about you…
Can you relate to my friend, does this sound like you? How?
What else do you think you could do to go from talking about it do being about it?