What You Need to Do to Get Unstuck and be Successful

get unstuck and be successful

I know you’re sick of it.

You’ve been in the same place forever. You know it’s time to move on but you can’t seem to figure out how to really get things going.

Nothing seems to work.         

You feel defeated every day. You’re at the point where you’re questioning your goals and dreams.

Can you even do what you want to do? Is getting to the level of success you’ve been dreaming about even possible?

Have you been kidding yourself this whole time?

Um, yeah you kind of have but not in the way you think.

The Merry-Go-Round

You have a good idea of what you want and at least a few things you need to do to achieve it. So every now and then you’ll try out one of those things.

One day, you do a little bit. You plan on doing it again the next day but something comes up.

Your car needed brakes so you had to take it to the mechanic. After two hours and a couple hundred dollars later you don’t have the time or patience to continue yesterday’s activity.

Following a night’s rest, the third day comes around but you’re not in the mood for the new task. You want to take a steadier, comfortable approach to the day.

And just like that it’s over.

As quickly as it started, it ended.

It’s so much easier to slip back into old behaviors than it is to implement new ones. That’s why it took nothing for you to give everything up by the third day.

You had a plan for your day but one thing shook it up and you immediately wanted to go back to something you knew very well.

It’s like being on a merry-go-round. You’re sitting on the little fake horses, going round and round and up and down.

You may switch your seat on the ride but ultimately you’re in the place, going in circles, with a few ups and downs to mix things up.

Getting Off the Ride

Working on your goals every now and then isn’t going to get you any closer to them. You have to be willing to put forth effort every day. Not just when you feel like it.

Think about how long it would take you to finish school if you only went to class when the mood was right.

Yeah, you’d still be attending school now. And you wouldn’t even be half way through.

In order to achieve incredible change, having your life mirror your dreams, you have to be consistent with the work you put in.

And as much fun as a carnival ride can be at first, it gets old very quick. That’s why when you get older you’re not running to the line like when you were a kid.

You don’t even want to get on. You’ve had enough.

Just like you’ve had enough of being stuck.

It’s time to get unstuck in life and live how you’ve always dreamed. It all comes together with these:

Where Are You Headed?

Don’t think about where you want to be because where you’re headed and where you want to be can be two very different directions.

Where are you headed? Where are you going?

Consider the things that you’re doing now, on a daily basis. If you were to consistently continue those activities every day, where would you be in the next few years?

Now, is that where you want to be? I’m going to take shot in the dark here… the answer is no!

Your daily activities may seem insignificant but it’s the little things you do every day that add to the bigger picture.

Think about this, you’re in good health because you eat healthy meals each day and cheat maybe once a week. You wouldn’t have the same results if you ate junk food all week and binged on veggies and fruit one day a week.

Catch my drift?

Your daily habits and behavior have a huge impact on your life.

It’s Impossible to be Disciplined

I don’t know how those people do it. You know the ones who are so disciplined that they can implement basically anything new instantly.

That’s why I don’t rely on discipline. At least not at first, it’s just too hard when you’re trying something new.

It’s an uphill battle trying to be so strict with something so fresh to you.

Instead it’s easier to implement effective habits.

Try to do one new daily habit. If you miss a day don’t beat yourself up, just commit yourself to doing it the next day and be consistent until it’s a habit.

Let’s be Realistic

Shopping in a store is an enjoyable old school past time because you hand someone money and they immediately hand you want you want.

It’s instant gratification. Without any lag time you immediately get what you paid for. Bam! It’s in your hand.

No if, ands or buts about it.

But life doesn’t exactly work like that. Many things take time, especially change.

The good thing is, a bunch of little changes can add up to something quite impressive. However you’ll have to wait a bit that’s why consistency is so important.

When you’re not realistic with your expected time frames you get discouraged when things don’t pan as quickly as you thought. Then your consistency falls through the cracks and everything unravels.

The process of creation is time consuming but consistency and patience produce magnificent results.

Do It Now

You’re doing it again. Putting yourself on the back burner.

Tomorrow always seems like a good day to start something new or try again. But what about now? You aren’t doing anything anyway.

So now is the perfect time to start.

Each day and moment is the best time to build consistency and bring you closer to your goals. There is power in every minute.

Time lost is gone forever so make every moment count.

Remind Yourself

Once you’ve done it now, you have to figure out the best way to do it tomorrow and the days to follow.

You can always set up a reminder in that smartphone of yours but if you feel like that wouldn’t work well, use your existing habits and environment.

Plan to take act immediately before or after something you do every day, like brushing your teeth.

For instance, if you want less pet hair to accumulate on your floors, so that it doesn’t get everywhere else, a good reminder would be to sweep up before heading into the bathroom to brush your pearly whites.

Getting There

You can try a million different things once but that isn’t going to get you anywhere. If you did one thing a million different times, you’d get a whole lot farther.

To really make an impact you have to be consistent about it in every way possible.

It’s easy to get discourage and question your ability to progress when you do one-off things and don’t see improvement from it. But don’t give up, instead commit to trying for a few more months.

You already know what will happen if you give up, slipping into the same old thing, staying stuck. But you’re done with that so don’t even consider it.

Consistency is your ticket out. It works for every single goal.

So if you want to be successful in anything be consistent in your efforts.

 

Tell me…

Are you doing something every day to bring your closer to your dreams?

 

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  • Hey Lea,

    Brilliant post. It was like you had been watching me over a year ago. I was on the Merry Go Round. I would find something that I enjoyed doing and give it my all and soon enough I was doing those three days you describe so well.

    But then I found blogging and nothing has really been the same since. There has never been a day where I thought this is too much, oh there have been days I have been extremely stressed and overwhelmed – I think over the past year of You Tubing and Blogging and there have only been a couple of days where I have thought enough for now. But the following day I was eagerly back working through my ‘to do list’.

    I really enjoyed how you took us through the old habits and how to create new ones. Really glad I read this.

    Rachel.

    • Lea

      Hey Rachel,

      I was there too. I was so guilty of going round and round yet getting no where. I’m glad you knew where I was coming from with that.

      It sounds like you’ve found something you really enjoy and want to do well. I think that’s how we all should feel about work, yeah it can have it’s days but for the most part you’re eager to jump back in.

      Thanks Rachel. I’m really happy you read it also ๐Ÿ™‚

      ~Lea

  • Hi Lea,

    Thank you for writing the truth! There are some people out there that can disciple themselves instantly. But for the most part, I think we all have a problem with that. I know I do. It takes me a long time to apply a new habit. And if we take that into consideration….time plus the fact that we are not perfect and may revert to old habits, we can win. Just jump back on the horse as the old saying goes.

    I did this myself with eating habits. I wasn’t thinking about that carb intake lol. But I replaced one thing with another and slowly changed my diet habits. It took a while, but now it is part of me and I feel better.

    So I think it comes down to telling ourselves “this will take time” and also forgiving ourselves if we screw things up now and then.

    -Donna

    • Lea

      Hi Donna,

      Entirely my pleasure lol! New habits take some getting used to for me also.

      Yes! Our biggest mistake is thinking what we want will happen 1, 2, 3. Especially knowing that we don’t adjust to things instantly.

      Good for you! I did the same kind of thing to eat healthier. Completely making over my diet seemed to be too much of a task and not very appetizing. But I started with little things, like snacks, and now I rarely make bad food choices and I lost weight!

      We’re only human and mistakes happen. Not giving up when we stumble makes all the difference.

      Hope you’re feeling better ๐Ÿ™‚

      ~Lea

  • Hi Lea, Nice article! I so agree about consistency, and about chaining a new habit to an old one. I didn’t think I would ever stick with morning pages after I read The Artist’s Way, but it’s three years now and I would say I do it 28 days out of 30. And I’ve been able to link a few new habits onto my morning routine after it. Hopefully this will inspire us all to be more disciplined and to start now!

    • Lea

      Hi Ellen,

      Thanks so much! ๐Ÿ™‚ Wow, that’s really impressive. Sounds like you’re really disciplined now.

      I sure hope so! It’s really the best way to get things done. Thanks so much for contributing here.

      ~Lea

  • Stephen Osoko

    “Now is the perfect time to start”.
    Love it!.

    • Lea

      It really is! Why wait another moment! ๐Ÿ™‚

      ~Lea

  • Hi Lea,

    I SO recognise that “merry-go-round”. It seems as if whatever I plan to do something kicks me in the teeth and gets in the way. For instance, I had set aside the weekend to learn something on a new course – I hit a snag I couldn’t overcome then the support desk was closed for the weekend. Of course, I did something else instead, but I was left feeling cheated that I hadn’t achieved the original goal, and since then other things have had to take priority, so the course remains unlearned. I WILL get back to it, but it’s disappointing.

    I can honestly say that I do at least something 95% of days to move closer to my goals, but it’s very much a work in progress.

    And, those dog hairs – they’re part of my dream. If you’re lucky enough to have dog hairs around your house, treasure them ๐Ÿ™‚

    By the way – what an attractive blog theme!

    Joy

    • Lea

      Hi Joy,

      When life happens like that it can be hard to get back on course. That’s why a lot of things go unfinished. That where consistency comes in and brings it all back together.

      That’s really good to hear Joy! I think you’re doing better than most even while still working on it. I’d say I’m around the same place. I used to be much worse at it but being consistent with my activities changed that.

      Ha ha, I love my pouch myself. I just wish he shed a little less. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thanks, glad you like it!

      Don’t forget about that course! lol

      ~Lea

  • Mark Newsome

    This is such an excellent post Lea!
    Because you’ve touched on so many vitally
    important points!

    I really like your comparison to the “merry go round”
    analogy.

    You may be going up & down periodically,
    but you’re basically just moving in place!LOL!

    And how, especially in the beginning of starting
    anything new, it’s best not to try & rely on discipline!

    That’s a great point and I never heard explained that way before!

    It makes total sense! Thanks so much for articulating
    such an extremely powerful and much needed message!

    • Lea

      Yeah it’s crazy how life can get like that sometimes. You move around just enough to get distracted but not really go anywhere.

      Discipline is the worst lol! To me its more so after you’ve go it under control, not before. Expecting yourself to able to adapt to something new that soon is just not realistic.

      Glad to hear I brought it to you in a new way. I try ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thanks for the feedback! You’re great!

      ~Lea