Believe it or not, how you handle things impacts its outcome. How you think about something can determine if it will be a small problem or a huge debacle.
Whenever I would try something with negative thoughts in tow and it did not work, my father would say, "It works for you, by not working."
Of course, at first when I heard it I didn't understand. But as I got older it made perfect sense.
What he was saying, in so few words, was that because I handled it in such a negative manner, because I expected it to fail, it did.
It did what I expected. That's why it didn't work out, because I didn't want it to.
I was proven right. It’s like when something bad happens, and you say to yourself “I knew that was going to happen.” You knew because you expected.
When you begin things with a negative thoughts you're creating obstacles right there, if you have not already killed the process right out the gate.
You've cancelled out any motivation and therefore can't even get started. Why even bother, you've convinced yourself that there is no point.
Changing how you think about it is the difference between never getting anything done and being successful every time. Having happy thoughts about your goals will get you going, and keep you on track.
The Benefits of Worrying
There aren't any. Sure, it could make you aware of potential challenges but that's not really worrying, that's preparing.
Worrying is thinking about those things and focusing on them, not letting go and completely blocking out positive outcomes.
Worrying just takes up your time and mental space. It's not productive at all. The only thing it does is increase your stress levels and makes you crazy.
Things happen for a reason and always seem to come together in the end. You have to know this to be able to maintain the positive attitude you need for success.
At first it can be hard, I know I'm realist myself and still struggle from time to time. Failure is a possible outcome, but so is success so why not focus on that. After all it’s more beneficial for you.
Consider all the time you've spent worrying in the past about something bad happening. Using an example of when that unfortunate event happened, were you completely prepared to take it on?
No, because didn't spend a single minute thinking about how you would put out the fire. So when it happened, you knew it would happen, but you still didn't know how to handle it. So in the end all the time you spent worrying was wasted. It served you no purpose.
Well there is probably one thing you accomplished, you distracted yourself. Worrying takes you out of the current moment to put you in a bad place. Unfortunately, it results in lack of positive action and stagnation.
Challenges Will Occur
I'm not saying the unexpected doesn't happen, because it does. Challenges are a normal part of life, to acknowledge that doesn't mean you need to focus on them completely.
If you think about it you deal with challenges daily, just of different proportions. Some are small, some are major but they are all obstacles you have to overcome to get something accomplished.
In life challenges are always going to arise but you have to believe that you can conquer them. You probably deal with challenges on a daily basis, you work through them. You've done it in the past and you can do it again.
With a positive attitude, overcoming obstacles can simply become an exercise in ability.
Learn From It
I'm a firm believer that there is something to be gained from every experience. It can be an eye-opening life lesson or a simple tip on how to handle something in the future.
Recognizing this gives you the opportunity to grow and improve. As your knowledge increases your confidence will also begin to blossom, just another reason to look on the bright side.
Changing your way of thinking can be a challenge itself. Follow these steps to shift your mind to happy thoughts:
1. Anticipate your outcome
Instead of thinking about all the possibilities, focus on the outcome you want to happen. Whatever your goal is, believe that it will happen the best way possible.
Every now and then, especially in the face of difficulty, you might start thinking about the “what ifs” but you have to overcome them. Simply shift your focus when you find yourself heading down that path. Instead, start thinking about something positive.
For instance, if your goal has been achieved by someone else, perhaps your mentor or idol, focus on that. They did it, so you can too. Or you could change your thoughts completely by thinking about something unrelated that makes you happy.
2. Do something, now
You may have a big goal that could take time to achieve, it may even scare you just thinking about it, but that shouldn't hold you back. If they scare you, if you have a fear of failure then your goal is probably taking you somewhere you've never been before.
Just because it's new to you doesn't mean you cannot do it. Break your goal down to smaller segments and tackle one immediately. Once you complete that you'll have the momentum and confidence to keep going.
Keeping your mind on your desired outcome will also keep you on track and leave little time to play the “what if” game.
3. Learn the lesson
Again, everyday life has its challenges, so the path to your goal will not be too different. Remember that everything happens for a reason and there is something to be gained.
Everything will work out as planned. A slight hiccup could even aid the process in a way you may not be able to appreciate until later.
4. Write it out
Perform a brain dump. It’s great because it get things out of your head and reduces stress. Writing things down sharpens focus, makes it real and easier to remember. No more having to stress about the thing you had to do first or the great idea you had but can't recall.
Write out your personal goals, steps to achievement, thoughts and even your fears. Writing can be a good way to vent, especially with things you don't want to share with other people.
But again, don't focus on the negative, write about the positive as well. Feel free to list your accomplishments and mark things off of your to do list. Crossing things off is solid proof you’re moving forward.
The weight will be lifted and clarity will be gained.
When I began to concentrate on positive aspects, things just seemed to work out. Even things that seemed difficult at first, it became easier for me to come up with a solution.
Happy thoughts put your mind in a positive place, transforming it into an incredible tool. When you believe that there is a solution, your mind will find it. When you think there isn’t your mind doesn’t bother.
Think about how things have worked out for you in the past. When you were faced with a challenge, recall how you handled it and the result when you had an positive attitude versus a negative one. Consider how much better things could've went if you had a positive attitude the whole time.
Keeping your mind in a positive place opens up possibilities, it helps your mind find the best way to conquer challenges. Being able to efficiently move forward makes life easier and gives you the opportunity to enjoy it.
This small fix can produce powerful results and it's all a matter of choice.
How do you think your frame of mind impact your outcome?
Looking back, can you remember a time when you made things worse than they really were?