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8 Questions You Really Need to Answer for a Happy Life

questions for a happy life

Figuring out how to become happier is tricky. I mean its some ways away from where you are now.

You may not be completely depressed about where you are now, but you’re not thrilled either. You know that there’s more, that you can actually be in a better place.

You may even feel like you should’ve been there already.

But instead you’re repeating the same cycle of mediocrity. And why wouldn’t you? It’s so easy.

You simply just get up every morning, do the same things and then have the same feelings about them.

At some point every day you become consumed with frustration and exhaustion. You’re to the point where you just want to throw your hands up.

You have no idea how you can continue on like this. You’re not even sure you can make it.

But every morning, somehow you do.

You think about one day this all becoming a part of your past, and living a happy life. Every now and then you question the possibility. Is it possible?

Of course it is! You’re just clueless.

Get a Clue

Don’t worry too much, it’s perfectly normal.

When you’ve been stuck in the same place for a long time it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. So of course you’re going to teeter-totter back and forth about what’s possible outside of that.

Hop off of the fence and commit to the idea of breaking the cycle. The real question is how do you do it.

You struggle everyday with your current situation and you’re feelings about it. You become so consumed that you don’t have time to figure out what to do fix things.

It hasn’t even come to mind. How crazy does that sound?

You deal with the problem everyday but can’t come up with a solution.

I don’t blame you, emotions run high, and you’re getting hit back to back with things. Your main focus has become to handle things in a manner that allows you to keep your sanity. You don’t have the energy to dive any deeper.

Anyway, where would you start? What can you do to help? You have to figure this out if you want to see any kind of change.

Do you even know what makes you happy anymore?

Maybe not. You’re so disconnect from it. It’s more like a distant memory. And who knows if that same idea even works for you anymore.

Well, there’s one reason why you’re so stuck. Not only are you baffled about what to do, you’re unclear about what you want.

Now things are starting to make sense, as crazy as it seems. But you still have some stuff to do.

Question Everything

In order to figure out what would make you happy, what needs to be fixed or even how you may be holding yourself back you have to dig deep.

Getting deep into your feelings and beliefs about things will tell you so much about yourself and your wants. It will give the answers that no one else can.

And how do you get answers? You ask questions. In this case, deep questions.

Asking effective questions provides you with real answers that will put you in the right direction.

You’ll know what to move towards, what to stop doing and what actions to take. And once you know what to do and start doing them. That’ll break the cycle of mediocrity you so loathe.

1. Am I getting in my own way?

Yeah, get a load of that. You could be sabotaging yourself.

After everything you’ve been through the last thing you would expect is to be in your own way. But it’s possible.

You could be the very reason you’re stuck in the same place.

And it could be simple things that you wouldn’t even consider, like thinking that you couldn’t pull something off. How do you know unless you’ve given it a real shot?

Or, putting things off. Could now be a good time to change careers? What are you waiting for, the day you end up driving toward the interstate instead of the office parking lot because you can’t stand it anymore.

Determine if you are and how to stop creating more obstacles for yourself.

2. Where do I need the most improvement?

This is probably an age old problem. You procrastinate when it comes to trying something because you don’t think you’re good enough yet.

But instead of sharpening that skill or developing that trait you just put it on the back burner.

It’s never really an idea you give up on completely. Just one you don’t ever follow through on.

You just consider it from time to time. I guess that’s a good way of tricking yourself into thinking that you’re trying to find a way out. But really, you’re not doing anything.

Figure out where you need improvement and… do something about it.

3. If I could, what advice would I give my younger self?

When you look back at things it all becomes so clear. You see the mistakes you made and all the other options you had but were blind to.

Looking back at all the things you have done and decisions you have made over the years you should be able to see a pattern.

That will give you great insight on your current situation. Use that information to make the changes that you need to.

4. What am I really good at and how can it help me?

Sometimes when you’re in a tough spot you tend to forget how amazing you can be.

You may be stuck now and feeling a bit hopeless, but up until this point you proved to be a truly determined individual. You would sort things out and find a work around when others would have given up.

That part of you isn’t gone. You still have it in you. You can be that person again.

Uncover your strengths and see how they can help you get moving. This could be the very thing that moves you into a better place.

5. Do I waste time on things that are beyond my control?

Venting is great way to get things off of your chest and blow off steam.

But complaining is another thing. Complaining is talking, often endlessly, about something in a derogatory manner and doing nothing else about it.

There will be a number of things that you’ll encounter that are beyond your control, and that’s fine but you have to let them go.

There’s no point in getting stuck on them. It’s a waste of time.

Think about it this way, the more time you spend on that, the less time you have to focus on something productive that is within your control. Like a way to get as far away from that situation as possible.

If you find that you spend too much time focus on things beyond your control, make it a point to catch yourself in the act and nip in it the bud.

6. What do I want my life to look like?

This is where you reconnect with your idea of happiness. Where you’ll figure out what you want, what’s important to you. What would you like to be your greatest accomplishment?

Once you determine what that is you have to figure out if you’re moving in that direction. Is what you’re doing now or how you’re currently living putting you closer or further away from that dream?

If you can’t connect the dots between here and now to your future vision, you have to make some changes.

7. What’s standing in my way?

Now this is a little different from determining if you are getting in your own way. Because even if you remove yourself from the equation, you can still have more obstacles to overcome.

In this case, these obstacles would come in the form of external forces standing between you and progress.

Think about what you’re waiting for. What situation do you think needs to happen before you can make a move?

Determine if it’s truly necessary or not. If it is, make it happen. Don’t wait for it to magically happen on its own.

8. How do I handle challenges?

Do you give up and complain? Do you blame others for the problems or do you look for solutions?

How you handle the challenges you face impact your progress and ultimately your happiness.

If they are not addressed in a productive manner, you’ll be stuck in the misery that they bring.

Make sure that when you’re hit with a challenge that you look beyond the issues, and focus on a solution.

Break Free

Breaking the cycle can be tough, really tough when you don’t know where to start. And that routine, no matter how much you want to end it, can be hard to shake when you don’t know that you’re enabling it.

Answering these questions will give you the raw info that you need to determine what needs to be done to break yourself free.

Without questioning yourself you will be blind to the facts that are right in front of your face. The keys to you creating a happy life.

I know when you’re frustrated it’s hard to believe that the solution to your problem was right there all along, but it is. Clues are where you least expect them, you just have to uncover them up.

No one else has clues or insight to your problems like you do. You just have to draw them out with effective questions.

The answers are there.

 

Tell me…

Are you ready to answer these questions?

 

 

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  • Lea

    Thanks Chukwu and thanks for sharing your story.

    Happiness it definitely a journey and moving target. You just have to make sure that you are achieving happiness for yourself and not doing something to please others.

    Do everything that you can to hold on to your joy! 🙂

    ~Lea

  • Hi Lea, Very good points to think about there.

    I am rather my own worst enemy and tend to beat myself up in a way that I would never do to anyone else! And I take on board troubles I have no control over.

    So there’s a couple of good missions for me to work on.

    Thanks for some very thought-provoking questions, Joy

    • Lea

      Hi Joy,

      I understand. Getting caught up on things you can’t control is the worst. You end up spending on your time and not being productive. I try to avoid doing that myself.

      Happiness is an ongoing journey 🙂

      Thanks for commenting Joy.

      ~Lea

  • Hey Lea,

    Another great post with food for thought. You always have me questioning areas where I may not have even looked. I know when I hit a wall or find a problem, I am no longer in a hurry or give it great urgency. Because I am committed. I have learnt that when facing a problem – I can generally take a couple of days to work out a couple of solutions or where I can go to get additional information on it.

    I used to be my own worst enemy because I wanted to find what I loved doing but did not know where it was. But now I love what I do so I embrace the challenges.

    Great paragraph on “Do I waste time on things I can’t control?” Yep every now and again I do. But now that I am more time oriented it does not take long for me to get refocused because my time is valuable. But I really enjoyed this section because it really has me thinking and I will be more aware now when I do start to linger is this area. Because it is such a waste of time.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Rachel.

    • Lea

      Hi Rachel,

      Thanks. I’m happy I’m able to get you thinking 🙂

      That’s funny, I’m the same way. I used to rush through things but then I realized that I come up with more (and usually better) stuff when I give myself a little time.

      So good to hear you found what you love. When you’re in that place you can handle the challenges differently.

      It really is. I always get frustrated when I find that I wasted my time on something. But you can’t turn it back so I just try not to make the same mistake again.

      Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your thoughts!

      ~Lea

  • Your point #6 is insightful. Sometimes I find myself defeated with unhappiness on a specific daily event. If I let those thoughts get control of me, depending on the issue, then it clouds my big picture view of happiness. So by asking “What do I want my LIFE to look like,” it puts those “moments” even if they last for hours, into perspective.

    • Lea

      Hi Patricia – Reminding yourself of the bigger picture helps you to gain a sense of control. At that moment you become reconnected with what its all about. It just makes it easier to trek on.

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

      ~Lea

  • This spot is 100% spot on. Once I began to question everything I started seeing massive change in my life. I became more motivated. I stopped watching mindless TV and I finally became focused.

    • Lea

      Thanks Jason. I too went throught the same kind of awakening. It’s funny how things that don’t seem harmful can be standing in your way.

      I’ve come to appreciate how productive I can be with the TV off more often. Glad to hear you have too 🙂

      ~Lea

  • Hi Lea

    Happiness is a condition of ones heart and mind and you have proposed some very real and practical questions that one must ask in order to break the cycle of unhappiness and to move forward.

    While I am not an unhappy person, I admit that I have some shortcomings when i comes to #1 and 5 and funny they both connect. I sometimes waste time on things I have no control over and it must mean that I am getting in my own way.

    I see how this is a great tool that can be used to snap out of that cycle and to get on the path to complete happiness and freedom.

    Thanks and have a great day,

    • Lea

      Hi Yvonne,

      Thank you 🙂

      Yes there can be a connection, especially when it’s eating up your precious time.

      Sometimes I find myself doing that also. I think it’s just something that we tend to do as a society, mull over things you can’t change. Whenever I find myself spending a lot og time on an issue I try to find a solution. If I can’t I consciously move my thoughts onto a problem I can solve.

      Thank for commenting, enjoy the evening.

      ~Lea

  • mark newsome

    Way to cut to the chase Lea!

    Especially #’s 5 & 7! I don’t know if
    I ready to flat out admit that I get in my own way!

    But sometimes, the evidence would seem to indicate that
    is the case!LOL!

    But I like your advice of getting off the fence and
    making the commitment to the idea of breaking the cycle!

    That sounds like a very good start!And won’t cause me to go
    screaming and kicking in flat out protest!LOL!

    You’ve offered eight extremely practical ways of effectively
    moving forward!

    Now all we need do is consistently apply them!Thanks!

    • Lea

      Sometimes you just have to chop the bush down lol!

      Realizing that you are your own obstacle is tough. Nobody wants to think that they have been keeping themselves from something better. But you have to come to terms with it to get out of your way. Just know you’re not alone and it doesn’t have to be that way forever!

      Yes, ease yourself into it lol.

      Thanks for the comment, I appreciate it.

      ~Lea

  • Hi Lea,

    I find the only way to a happy life IS to question yourself. You have raised many questions here that do work. I know..been there a very long time ago when I wasn’t happy. I was just putting up with life and that wasn’t enough for me.

    There was some kind of yearning inside of me that things could be better but I had not tools within myself to make that leap. So I went on a quest of sorts. It all started when I wrote things down. One column was what I didn’t like and the other was my wildest dreams.

    Sometimes seeing things written down is a good way to make some changes. And that I did! Once you make the first change to live a happier life, it only gets stronger and strong like a snow ball effect.

    I can say with honesty that I have been happier ever since. And the journey goes on and on.

    Thanks for addressing an issue that is so important!

    -Donna

    • Lea

      Hi Donna,

      Questioning does really get down into the core of things. You end up getting answers that you didn’t know were there, but yet were right under your nose. It’s funny like that, but certainly is the foundation I think.

      Yes, and writing things down is a good way to make them realer. Sometimes you can dismiss things as a passing thought but seeing it on paper can really get you going.

      The best snowball effect is one that breaks down barriers and leads to something new and improved.

      Thank you for sharing your experience!

      ~Lea

  • Hi Lea,

    I really liked all of your points. Especially ‘Question Everything’ because a lot of the time in life, most of us have lead the life ‘we think’ we are supposed too rather than, the one we want.

    I know about this all to well as I am a younger sibling and there was always an element of expectation to keep up with my sibling. When in reality, I should have been taking a different path completely.

    I realise this now after ‘questioning’ what other people’s expectations of me were and leading my own journey made me so much happier.

    Another great tool to add to your list is meditation. I really does help to quiet the background noise and tap into your inner self. At the moment I do roughly 10-15 minutes a day and I’m already addicted! I look forward to my evening meditation.

    Thanks

    Naomi

    • Lea

      Hi Naomi,

      Exactly! When you do that you end up living the life society tells you to live but not one that speaks to who you are, and you’re unsatisfied.

      So glad that you ended up on your very own path. The thrill of living your life on your terms is truly unmatched.

      Thanks for the add on. Meditation is a helpful tool in a number of ways. Thanks for your feedback!

      ~Lea