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3 Things to Remember When You’re Really Going Through It

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Life can get rough whether you like it or not.

I remember when I was having what I thought was a hard time and I managed to get through that pretty well. I was actually really proud of the way I was able to get over it.

And I knew it was going to be smooth sailing after that. I’d finally be able to focus on what I really wanted to do, instead of only putting out fires every 5 minutes.

Or so I thought.

I probably had about a good month of smooth sailing until something else hit.

While my mom was on vacation, almost 3000 miles away, she suffered a stroke. She was hospitalized immediately after. And once she was released I had to go and get her.

The year following that whole thing wasn’t the easiest, or my most productive as far as making progress in my life. I pretty much put everything to get through the aftermath.

Every aspect of my life was at a complete and utter stand still. Things were falling apart.

It was one of the roughest patches I had ever gone through. I mean it made other things I had gone through seem like a cake walk.

Why It Suddenly Gets Harder

When things get really complicated you don’t know what direction to turn in, you’re getting hit from all directions. You just end up going nowhere.

You don’t focus on anything in particular because you can’t. Something more pressing and troublesome comes up.

Life just becomes so stressful that you can’t even focus on yourself for 5 minutes. So you don’t. You just stay frozen in the same place you were when it all started.

And what probably makes this the easiest is that your rough patch seems endless.

When they come up they take over your life impacting almost everything. It’s like a complete domino effect.

You can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel when it looks like it’s crumbling from the inside.

So it’s easy to just give up and stop when you feel like you’re never going to get anywhere.

It may seem like it’s never ending but it will. You may not see it now but the end is there, somewhere.

In fact, you can actually move that progress along if you remember a few little truths.

I know it seems tough and unrelated. But when you’re having a hard time how you handle it affects how you get through it. And how you handle it depends on your perspective.

It’s like when you allow yourself to freeze up and not do anything you’re basically waiving the white flag. You’ve given up, you’re stuck.

Why? Because you don’t see an end in sight so you surrender to the whole situation. But that doesn’t get you over the hump any quicker.

The good thing is these truths apply to every rough patch and will help you get through it and over it.

Once you realize how great they are you’ll be able to use them to your advantage, get unstuck and get on with your life.

1. Pain is motivating

Pain is a feeling that lets you know that something somewhere isn’t right.

Often you tend to pay more attention to the negative aspect of it without realizing how helpful it can be.

Pain can be the very thing that helps you enact change. That feeling all by itself can tell you so much about yourself. Face your pain and determine what is causing it.

Pain can motivate you to make the changes that you need to at the best possible time.

Instead of letting pain paralyze you, let it drive you to down the path you need to be on.

2. Mind over matter

I’m sure you remember this saying. It’s all about your perspective. How you view and handle things directly impacts how it plays out.

Every action has a reaction, and those can have a lasting impact on your life.

Instead of reacting that same way you always do, which could be the result of these difficulties in the first place, act wisely.

Remember that these kinds of things don’t last forever. Choose to do something that will help bring about a resolution, rather than dragging your heels.

Once you put your mind in a place to find solutions they will come and this will be over before you know it.

3. Fear is a hoax

Many of them are. Of course you’re going to have fears that developed from real situations. But a lot of the time they’re not based on anything real.

Fears just situations and things that are concocted in your mind. Instead of helping you to prepare for challenges it paralyzes you, shaping the actions that you take, or don’t take.

Basically, preventing you from making progress and keeping you in that tight spot.

But in order to move on you have to face your fears. It’s the only way to dispel the hoaxes and get unstuck.

Breaking Through

Believe me I know how hard it is to keep going when you’re in a rough spot. But you have to if you ever want to get out of it.

These powerful truths will help you breakthrough and get on with life. Anytime you think about giving up and letting the situation consume you, think of these truths. They will help you to make the right decisions and get to level you could not see before.

Every moment is an opportunity. In order to live your ideal tomorrow, you have to effectively handle your life today.


Tell me…

Which will motivate you the most to push through?





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  • Hi Lea,

    Pain certainly can be motivating. It can either hinder you and bring you down, or it can inspire creativity.

    I’ve found that using our emotions wisely is the key to just about anything. It’s an art. The idea is to use them deliberately (as you so well pointed out here) 🙂

    • Lea

      Hi Dana,
      Emotions don’t necessarily travel through rational channels and that’s something that we have to remember when we’re basing our actions on them.

  • Hi Lea,
    Interesting post and I guess we’ve all been there (sadly).
    I was writing the other day about time management and how – when you think you haven’t another spare moment in your life, if a major crisis comes up you WILL find time to fit it in.
    I am a bit of a fire-fighter, always have been LOL But I’ll work on it 🙂
    Joy – Blogging After Dark

    • Lea

      Hi Joy,
      Yes, it is a part of life.
      That is so true. When things like at come up you find a way to fit it in. Not having enough time isn’t an option in that case.
      Ha ha, me too. An incredible talent only given to the strongest 🙂

  • Sherman Smith

    Hey Lea,

    Lately I’ve been looking at situations, not as positive or negative, but more so as balance or unbalance.

    Each situation is an opportunity to get back in tune with ourselves and our goals. In other words growth despite all of the obstacles.

    So every opportunity deem to be negative is a lesson to learn to get back into balance despite all of the distractions there are around us.

    Thanks for sharing Lea! Have a great weekend!

    • Lea

      Hey Sherman,
      Great point. There is always something to be learned from the situation. You just have to open your eyes to see it.
      Some people say it isn’t ever a negative situation because something can always be gained from it.
      I hope you enjoyed the weekend!

  • Lea

    Thanks for the feedback.

  • Oh my, as I was reading your article I couldn’t help but reflect on a similar time in my own life. As you say, you just have to keep moving. I have my own formula for dealing with adversity – first evaluate to clearly define what needs to be done, then begin to take action one step at a time. Then I do something to take my mind off of my own challenges, usually volunteer. When I was going through the worst time in my life I chaired the county food drive. Crazy as it sounds, that not only served to motivate me but opened many unexpected doors. The key is momentum with the right attitude. Great article and advice!

    • Lea

      Oh wow Marquita, that’s amazing. I couldn’t imagine going through something trying and organizing something so important. I can see what you mean by the distraction, it helps me to not completely lose it.

  • Hey Lea,

    I always thought about being stronger so that nothing can hurt me. But you know that pain is something needed to be felt.
    It’s all about how you consider any situation and what you learn.
    Our mind gets paralyzed by the fear. It happens all the time.
    Thanks for bringing this up.
    I enjoyed the article.

    • Lea

      Hey Ravi,
      Unfortunately not all pain can be avoided so you end up feeling something. But then the focus should be how you heal from it. You need to be able to come out of it stronger, not broken.