Have you ever done something, then realized later that how you responded was all wrong?
So a few days ago the phone rang, my friend was on the other end and she was completely freaking out.
Before she began to tell me what was going on I was running all the possible scenarios in my head. Then she said it, and I was kind of taken aback.
Although it was something that was rightly stress inducing, I still thought her reaction was a bit much. She was completely stressed out over this one thing. In her eyes, life as she knew it was basically over.
It was something that didn’t even have a bearing on her everyday life. But she was living it, not me, so I had no idea what she was really thinking.
All I knew was that she was putting herself in a place where she wouldn’t be able to move forward.
Her nerves were shot. She couldn’t focus on anything and things were only getting worse by the minute.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the saying when it rains it pours.
The fact that she was having a problem wasn’t really the issue, it was how she was handling it. Somehow it was spilling over onto everything.
The problem is you end up carrying these feelings and the response impacts other things. It becomes a crazy domino effect, knocking down everything.
But you can’t let one experience leave all other aspects of your life in ruins.
Changing how you handle it can change how much of your life it impacts.
Every Action Has a Reaction
You’re overreacting because your emotions are running wild at the moment. You let your feelings get the best of you.
All you can think about is the worst possible thing. Because you’ve surrendered all rational, your feelings dictate your actions.
Why has letting go in this moment become so easy? Because once you pick up that something isn’t right you immediately think all hope is gone and lose control.
Being able to handle things in a calm state promotes a better outcome. When you’re level headed and thinking clearly it’s easy to obtain the objective.
Stressful situations are always going to arise so it’s best to know how to handle them so things still work out the best way possible.
Just because you hit different bumps in the road doesn’t mean you can’t live the way you always dreamed. It just means you have to know how to get over the obstacles so you can get back to your goals.
1. Watch Yourself
Pay attention to how you respond to stressful situations. What’s your first instinct?
What’s your first thought?
Do you go from zero to 100 in a nano-second?
You default reaction may not suit every situation, or any for that matter. Monitoring how you immediately respond to something can tell you a lot about your feelings towards it.
When something ruffles your feathers it’s important to gain control again. Take a moment to pull yourself together.
Take slow and deep breaths to stop your heart from racing.
Once you’re able to control your physical reaction to the circumstance you can move on to the mental.
3. Don’t Take It Personal
Just because something crazy is going on in front of you doesn’t mean that it’s all about you.
So your boss has been short with you all morning, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve done anything. His day could’ve just started on the wrong foot before he even got into the office.
You tend to think that bad things you have to deal with are a direct reflection of you or something you’ve done but it may not even involve you.
4. Question Yourself
When you’re in a tough situation you want to make sure you’re doing the right thing so you can improve it, instead of making it worse.
Before you say or do something, make sure it isn’t adding fuel to the fire. Make sure it will have a positive impact and it can help turn the situation around.
The last thing you want to do is make matters worse than they already are.
5. Take Five
If you’re still finding it hard to keep stay calm, take a break. Allow yourself a couple of minutes to collect your thoughts and calm your nerves.
Sometimes when things get really hot really quick it can be hard to get things back under control in an instance.
A few minutes away can give the peace needed to move forward on a positive path.
Stopping the Dominoes
When your natural reaction is to throw your hands up or start shouting at the top of your lungs, it can be hard to get yourself to a calmer level but you have to try.
Just because something is stressful and challenging doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
You can still get back on track once you’ve tackled this issue. Once it’s over and done with you can get back to business as usual.
Stop letting one thing ruin everything. Keep it calm, keep it together and continue on.
What stresses you out the most? How do you typically respond to it?