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The Real Reason You’re About to Lose It

feeling overwhelmedMy friend always seems like she's about to lost it at any moment.

Even when she looks remotely calm, you could look in her face and tell she was thinking about the type of things that raise your blood pressure.

She continuously drives herself nuts. She can't let anything go.

Once I was at her house, we were supposed to be cooking and watching a movie but her mind was preoccupied with something else. She kept making mistakes in the kitchen because she continued to think about everything outside of what she was actually doing.

She was making a dish but forgot the ingredient that holds everything together. It still came out okay but she was disappointed with it.

This turned into another point of distraction for her.

Every time she served it or someone else asked about it being done, she warned them of the missed ingredient then harped on her mistake.

No one complained but she did.

As she allowed herself to get wrapped up in one thing, something else happened that she could add to the list. She was literally driving herself insane and getting incredibly stressed out.

This all started from something that happened at work. She made some type of mistake there and carried it with her.

Now, if it were a few hours after her shift I could understand. But it was Sunday afternoon and she hadn't been to work since early Friday.

She had been stressing out over this all weekend.

Just imagine how many other mistakes she made over the last couple days because she was focused on one that she couldn't correct until Monday, at the earliest.

Her entire weekend was ruined. I honestly thought she was going to have a panic attack.

This was just one instance. Trust me there is more.

Becoming obsessed with the wrong things or expecting unrealistic results are just a few surefire ways to get admitted into the loony bin.

You can't relax and find peace when your mind is preoccupied.

If you can't be at peace you're probably doing one or more of these:

You Demand Perfection

Everyone makes mistakes and there will be times when you are on the receiving end of it.

Expecting constant perfection in an imperfect world is a bit of a stretch. Things are going to go wrong and that’s fine if you have the right frame of mind.

I used to be guilty of this myself. I always expected the most from everything and everyone. Once I realized that some things aren't going to perform at the level that I expect it became easier to move on.

Learn to adjust your expectations. When things look like they will not turn out as planned, adjust the plan.

There are still other solutions to get the outcome you were looking for.

You can turn the worst-case scenario into something unimaginable. Accept that there may be a few bumps in the road and make tweaks as necessary.

You're Fearful

Being afraid of things can trigger anxiety. The more you start to panic, the farther from peace you become.

You can either overcome your fears or you can accept them as they are.

Either way you will be able to be at peace with it and gain the balance you need.

You're Resentful

Are you still upset but something that happened a long time ago?

Do you hold grudges like it's an Olympic sport?

Choosing to hang on to ill feelings does more harm than good.

You might think that it’s effective in reminding you of something but it’s just keeping you in the past.

Bearing old anger or being upset for too long isn't healthy. You're purposely keeping yourself from a calm state of being.

It is normal to have these feelings but not to carry them around forever. Give yourself a moment, release these emotions and breathe easy.

You're Regretful

This is probably the most common way people drive themselves crazy.

Constantly thinking about the past, especially things that you can't change, is counterproductive.

If there's nothing you can do about it, leave it alone.

You can't be happy with the present if you're stuck on the past.

If there's something that you wish you could've done differently, do that when you have another opportunity.

Just don't ruin your present opportunities with the past.

Your Life is too Hectic

Every job posting these days describes the environment as being fast paced. That doesn't mean your whole life has to be, especially if your job is.

In an attempt not to disappoint anyone it can become second nature for you to say yes and overwhelm yourself.

The problem is doing too many things packs on the stress.

Sometimes your responsibilities can be so grand that you have to do a million and one things but you also have to give yourself a moment.

That’s why it’s often suggested you take breaks in between tasks.

It'll All Balance Out

Certain things need to fall apart so other things can come together. Everything you have now is a result of the things that have happened before.

While you may be upset with how something in the past turned out, that might have been necessary for the present to unfold that way it has today.

Don't be angry, just let it go.

There will be many more opportunities to do things differently and get that greater experience you're looking for.

Let Go of the Crazy

When you've just had one of those nutty days where it seems like you won't be able to recover for weeks, taking a simple break may not be enough.

Even if you do it throughout the day, when your mind is that overworked a minute to breathe seems like a nanosecond.

To relax and bring things back into perspective I meditate. It's honestly the simplest way to achieve peace after a hectic day.

Getting Your Sanity Back

You might enjoy meditation as well or maybe something else. There's no one thing you have to do to find peace.

Besides, one technique might be better for you at the end of the day versus mid-day when you're trying to keep everything together.

Try different things to see what works best for you. Practice it each day, set aside time for you to do it.

In addition to meditating I like to listen to music, you might even enjoy reading or jogging. The point is to focus on relaxing and being at peace. Don't think about anything else.

Reclaiming your sanity is simpler than you think once you know what your triggers are. Now that you know what drives you loony you can work on being happier and more productive.

Best of all you don't have to worry about stress build up or the threat of nervous breakdowns.

 

Tell me…

Do you know someone like my friend? What drives you nuts?

 

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  • Hey Lea,

    long time no see,

    I know some people that still focus on the past. Sometimes I’ll do this for a day, but later realize that it doesn’t help at all.

    One thing that we can’t determined is what perfection and imperfection is. It’s all subjective in my opinion.

    But what we deem as “imperfection” can lead us to a different, yet innovative direction as well.

    Besides that, I like your advice on meditation. This tends to help a lot. I look at it as a way to flush out the trash to make room for the more balance things in life.

    Thanks for sharing! Have a great weekend!

    • Lea

      Hey Sherman,

      Good to talk to you again,

      I completely agree with you. What one person may find acceptable, another may not. Its all a matter of opinion and preference.

      That’s in interesting view of mediation. I can so see that. I find it to be a good way to bring be back to where I need to me.

      Thanks for stopping by! You enjoy the weekend as well.

  • Mark Newsome

    Wow Lea!

    I’m happy to report, to date, I don’t personally
    know, and I’m not related to anyone, that fits the
    description of your friend!LOL!

    But I too, can certainly relate to her moments of insanity!LOL!
    Hey, we all from time to time, get way too caught up in the moment!

    And like you suggested, sometimes we just need to take a really
    deep breath, and relax!

    And I really love your excellent advice, under the “It All Balance Out”,
    section.

    You shared, certain things need to fall apart, so other things can
    come together!Isn’t that the truth!LOL!

    That’s an awesome perspective Lea!Thanks so much for sharing
    exactly what we need from time to time, to get back on track!

    • Lea

      Thanks Mark!

      Lucky you! I tend to come across it from time to time, but I do try to stay away. And especially not conform to it.

      Yup! You may not see it at the moment but later things tend to make perfect sense.

      Absolutely my pleasure. Thanks for stopping by.

  • Hi Lea,

    I really enjoyed reading this.

    Entrepreneurs are trailblazers. They do things differently than other people. When you are working online, pretty much alone, it’s very stressful and can really drive you nuts when things go wrong… especially things you might not be able to fix by yourself, like getting your site hacked, or figuring out how to get buyers to your sales page etc.

    It’s absolutely critical to build a team… a virtual team of techies, SEO folks, fellow bloggers… graphic designers… whatever you need to make your business viable.

    Personally, I think hiring a good coach is about the single most important thing any online entrepreneur or blogger can do.

    These are the things that can keep you moving forward and avoiding the crash when all seems lost.

    -Donna

    • Lea

      Hi Donna,

      I’m so glad you did.

      You make a great point. Even though there are many out there that do the same thing, you are still pretty isolated when it comes to everyday life, like your friends.

      So true. A coach can help you put things into perspective and gain that clarity and focus again.

      Thanks for sharing your wisdom 🙂

  • I think I was probably like your friend on Saturday, stressed by technical issues on my blog again. Then my Dad said to me “Just go sit in the garden”. So I did! I took a book and just forgot about my blog for the afternoon. Well – more accurately I put in a support ticket to the theme developer and left them to it. The problems were still there the next day, but I felt better for a day off.

    The other thing I do to calm myself down is a weekly yoga class. As well as making my body feel better it calms my mind – which I am very aware, I need to work on!

    Joy – Blogging After Dark

    • Lea

      Oh Joy, I’m sorry to hear that. I hope you get things under control really soon. Glad you got to enjoy the rest of the afternoon.

      That’s a good one. I find that meditating in the evening brings me balance. Which is great when you’re trying to relax after a long day.

      Thanks for sharing your tip!

  • Hey Lea,

    Life is full of imperfections and if someone thinks that it shouldn’t be like this then he/she would feel like losing it.

    Due to work people remain busy in their hectic life. They forget about the real meaning of living the life.

    People shouldn’t be fearful. I have experienced it many times.
    Thanks for sharing this wonderful post with us.
    ~Ravi

    • Lea

      Hey Ravi,

      It can be so overwhelming that you feel like you can’t take it anymore. Everyday life is complicated as it is and when it starts to pile up one on another it can be a bit too much.

      Thanks for commenting Ravi.

  • Oh yes! I sure do know someone like your friend, and it’s an emotional roller coaster. You’re absolutely right about how the reactions stem from regret and fear. All of those emotions fester in an individual and that’s when it leads them to losing their concentration on what the current task is. It’s frustrating when this happens. It’s very tough for people to let go of the negativity.

    Thanks for sharing Lea!

    • Lea

      Isn’t it?! Being focused on the wrong thing can take everything away from you. You end up all over the place and even more aggravated.

      Thanks for the feedback!