My friend always seems like she's about to lost it at any moment.
Even when she looks remotely calm, you could look in her face and tell she was thinking about the type of things that raise your blood pressure.
She continuously drives herself nuts. She can't let anything go.
Once I was at her house, we were supposed to be cooking and watching a movie but her mind was preoccupied with something else. She kept making mistakes in the kitchen because she continued to think about everything outside of what she was actually doing.
She was making a dish but forgot the ingredient that holds everything together. It still came out okay but she was disappointed with it.
This turned into another point of distraction for her.
Every time she served it or someone else asked about it being done, she warned them of the missed ingredient then harped on her mistake.
No one complained but she did.
As she allowed herself to get wrapped up in one thing, something else happened that she could add to the list. She was literally driving herself insane and getting incredibly stressed out.
This all started from something that happened at work. She made some type of mistake there and carried it with her.
Now, if it were a few hours after her shift I could understand. But it was Sunday afternoon and she hadn't been to work since early Friday.
She had been stressing out over this all weekend.
Just imagine how many other mistakes she made over the last couple days because she was focused on one that she couldn't correct until Monday, at the earliest.
Her entire weekend was ruined. I honestly thought she was going to have a panic attack.
This was just one instance. Trust me there is more.
Becoming obsessed with the wrong things or expecting unrealistic results are just a few surefire ways to get admitted into the loony bin.
You can't relax and find peace when your mind is preoccupied.
If you can't be at peace you're probably doing one or more of these:
You Demand Perfection
Everyone makes mistakes and there will be times when you are on the receiving end of it.
Expecting constant perfection in an imperfect world is a bit of a stretch. Things are going to go wrong and that’s fine if you have the right frame of mind.
I used to be guilty of this myself. I always expected the most from everything and everyone. Once I realized that some things aren't going to perform at the level that I expect it became easier to move on.
Learn to adjust your expectations. When things look like they will not turn out as planned, adjust the plan.
There are still other solutions to get the outcome you were looking for.
You can turn the worst-case scenario into something unimaginable. Accept that there may be a few bumps in the road and make tweaks as necessary.
Being afraid of things can trigger anxiety. The more you start to panic, the farther from peace you become.
You can either overcome your fears or you can accept them as they are.
Either way you will be able to be at peace with it and gain the balance you need.
Are you still upset but something that happened a long time ago?
Do you hold grudges like it's an Olympic sport?
Choosing to hang on to ill feelings does more harm than good.
You might think that it’s effective in reminding you of something but it’s just keeping you in the past.
Bearing old anger or being upset for too long isn't healthy. You're purposely keeping yourself from a calm state of being.
It is normal to have these feelings but not to carry them around forever. Give yourself a moment, release these emotions and breathe easy.
This is probably the most common way people drive themselves crazy.
Constantly thinking about the past, especially things that you can't change, is counterproductive.
If there's nothing you can do about it, leave it alone.
You can't be happy with the present if you're stuck on the past.
If there's something that you wish you could've done differently, do that when you have another opportunity.
Just don't ruin your present opportunities with the past.
Your Life is too Hectic
Every job posting these days describes the environment as being fast paced. That doesn't mean your whole life has to be, especially if your job is.
In an attempt not to disappoint anyone it can become second nature for you to say yes and overwhelm yourself.
The problem is doing too many things packs on the stress.
Sometimes your responsibilities can be so grand that you have to do a million and one things but you also have to give yourself a moment.
That’s why it’s often suggested you take breaks in between tasks.
It'll All Balance Out
Certain things need to fall apart so other things can come together. Everything you have now is a result of the things that have happened before.
While you may be upset with how something in the past turned out, that might have been necessary for the present to unfold that way it has today.
Don't be angry, just let it go.
There will be many more opportunities to do things differently and get that greater experience you're looking for.
Let Go of the Crazy
When you've just had one of those nutty days where it seems like you won't be able to recover for weeks, taking a simple break may not be enough.
Even if you do it throughout the day, when your mind is that overworked a minute to breathe seems like a nanosecond.
To relax and bring things back into perspective I meditate. It's honestly the simplest way to achieve peace after a hectic day.
Getting Your Sanity Back
You might enjoy meditation as well or maybe something else. There's no one thing you have to do to find peace.
Besides, one technique might be better for you at the end of the day versus mid-day when you're trying to keep everything together.
Try different things to see what works best for you. Practice it each day, set aside time for you to do it.
In addition to meditating I like to listen to music, you might even enjoy reading or jogging. The point is to focus on relaxing and being at peace. Don't think about anything else.
Reclaiming your sanity is simpler than you think once you know what your triggers are. Now that you know what drives you loony you can work on being happier and more productive.
Best of all you don't have to worry about stress build up or the threat of nervous breakdowns.
Do you know someone like my friend? What drives you nuts?